Monday, May 11, 2009

Now What

Some of you have heard, my sweet Gram left this world that had become so difficult for her Saturday afternoon. I just read my friend Tif's post today and she put it perfectly, " death, even of a person who is very old and has been very sick, never feels like relief even though people say that all the time, but instead leaves a space like a hole in the universe that only that unique individual can fill. " That is it exactly, there will never be another character in the make-up of my life like my Gram.

So now we begin the week of preparing to celebrate her. There is something in my makeup that insists I make something. I am such a weirdo. What I come up with may just end up being my own little therapy but I have a plan and I need suggestions. I went through the boxes of pictures and cards my Gram had saved through the decades. Let's say that if she ever forgot how loved she was it was not for lack of having been told! Her three boys, hubby and even grandkids had written and sent loads of cards. And she saved every. single. one. That is a lot of cards let me tell you! But when I found the ones from her boys when they were just little guys, six or seven it made we want to go buy a giant box to keep every card my kids ever give me. So here some of them are. Pretty isn't she? I am thinking of making a great big collage out of all of this. Anyone ever done such a thing? Seen such a thing? Have any suggestions. If it turns out at all presentable we may put it on an easel with the flowers at the funeral.

Thanks so much for the love and condolences I have received. I have the very best friends. Real and "imaginary" as my family calls it.


a fanciful twist said...

Oh My heart.... Yes, no matter what age, they still leave a void. Your beautiful Grandmother will me missed.

I think making something is excellent therapy, and the recognition of that is even better! Which you have done.

Many hugs my friend, happy belated Mother's day, xoxox

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for the hole that has been left, but I am so glad that you had her for your Gram!
Let me know if you need any babysitting help this week. I am thinking of you and your Gram. She is awesome!

Anonymous said...

I think a collage is a great idea!


Melanie said...

I am sorry to hear about the passing away of your Grandma. I can still see her in her house. What a dear lady. Love you. Melanie

Harrison Happeningz said...

I'm sorry to hear about your Gran. I can hardly wait to hear about your new creation! If anyone has a gift to create, it's you! She will be happy and feel the love to know you are thinking about her and doing something to bring you peace during this time of separation.

vivian said...

awww michelle, I'm so sorry about your gram. I can barely stand to think about how you must be feeling as my own gram is 93 this year....
my thoughts and prayers are with you. I know you will celebrate her life, its amazing to me how many changes our elderly folks have seen and lived through!
have a sweet week!

Circe said...

I love your idea and can't wait to see the finished product. I hope the week goes smoothly and your family has some good times remembering your grandma.

Natasha Burns said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your Gram :(
I think your collage idea is great and she would probably love that. It's a great way to honour her memory and celebrate her life

Christine said...

My condolences Michelle to you and your family.I lost a grandmother years ago very near Mothers Day too :(
I agree with you..even if someone lives a long life and their passing is expected it;s not easier. If anything they leave behind that much more love in the years that they gave it to others. I am glad that she is not suffering dementia anymore..we have had that in our family and it is difficult to see someone go through that.
Your images are wonderful and I think it is an honor to your grandmother to save that to pass down~
Sending well wishes your way :)